Living By the Word

As a father, my ultimate desire is for my children to know, love, and serve God. If I can live out Deuteronomy 6 (personally instructing them in every circumstance of life), and in turn allow the Holy Spirit to cultivate in their hearts a deep love for His Word, then I will consider my life’s work as a father a success. Near the start of 2018, our older two children made it their goal to read through the entire Bible. In the mornings (more often than not), I would find them sitting in a quiet place with the pages of their Bibles opened. Today, after many months of consistently studying Scripture they both achieved their goal. They finished reading the Bible from cover to cover. Needless to say, I am one super-proud daddy.

In Deuteronomy 8 (just two chapters following God’s command in Deuteronomy 6:6 for His Word to be in our hearts), God speaks to Moses and reminds him to observe to do all of the commandments He commanded Him (8:1). And to help illustrate man’s desperate need for the Word, God uses something Moses was all too familiar with–a shortage of food. One of the common troubles Israel faced while wandering in the wilderness was a lack of food. Of course, this makes perfect sense when you understand that the wilderness Israel wandered through was a desert. We have seen a lot of “desert” in our travels out West. Without moisture, there is no prospect of food. Without rain, the ground is dry and barren and incapable of supporting life. This makes what God did in providing for His people for 40 years all the more amazing. And when you consider the fact that God supported 2-3 million people for those years, it is mind blowing.

In verse 3 God reminds Moses of how He humbled him, and caused him to suffer hunger during those wilderness wanderings. This was something Moses would have been painfully aware of. But what is interesting is that in the latter part of verse 3, God gives Moses the reason He allowed His people to face these afflictions. God says He permitted them to suffer hunger physically so that they would understand a spiritual truth. (It is amazing how often God touches our physical lives to communicate a spiritual need we have). But in this particular instance, the spiritual truth God communicated was that man does not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God. What a powerful reminder. Though we live in a bountiful land where most do not go to bed hungry, this statement still rings true. God’s Word is the nourishment that feeds us spiritually. Bread may keep our bodies alive, yet it is the Word of God that feeds our souls. And so, we are met with the questions: Am I taking time to nourish my soul on the Word of God? Am I daily taking sustenance from God’s Word? If not, now is a great time to begin making the Bible the priority God intends for it to be in your life.

Devotional Thought from Sarah (Ephesians 1:13)

I just wanted to share this short devotional thought from Sarah on this Monday morning:

“We were discussing this verse last night as a family and I was struck with it’s beauty! All that is needed for eternal life is hearing and belief. God seals us with His Spirit when there is true belief. He calls us His own. True belief will evidence itself in our lives because of the Spirit living within. There is no work involved to become His child. No religious activity confirms our stand with God. It is simply hearing and believing His truth, and we are sealed!”

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Donations, Giving, and Support

Over the past couple of weeks, some have asked how they can give in support of our ministry. The easiest way to give is by going to our website and clicking on the “Donate” tab (Click Here To Be Directed to the Pacific Rim Missions Giving Portal). To set up monthly donations you will need to create an account. Otherwise, for one-time donations you can either click on the “Quick Give” tab or set up an account. When making your selection of the fund you wish to give to, be sure to choose: “Missionary Support Fund-Valiantes”

For other giving options, please visit our “Support” page (Click Here) on our website.

Over this past year, it has been amazing to see God providing for our family’s needs. God really takes good care of His children. When we set out on this journey last September, I knew God would meet our needs, but now I can look back and see how He actually did it! And in so many ways (not just financially, but also in physical, spiritual, practical, and emotional ways), God has provided far above anything we could have ever asked for or thought of!

During this Christmas Season, I want to express our gratitude for all those of you who have invested in our lives over the course of this past year. Many of you reading this are the very ones God used to encourage us or meet a specific need. You may never know (this side of eternity) the impact you made, but please know we are humbled and thankful for your sacrifice and ministry to our family!

“Now unto Him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think… unto Him be glory…” – Ephesians 3:20-21

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LAUNCH! – Haven of Grace Seminary Website

We are excited to announce the launch of the Haven of Grace Seminary Website! Check it out at

We trust that this informative, interactive site will afford potential students the opportunity to learn more about the seminary, the degree programs offered, and the financial costs. Prospective students are even able to apply online through our website.

This is one more step toward the official launch of the seminary in June 2019!

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Birth of a Book (Part 3)

In the first two posts of “Birth of a Book” (Part 1 & Part 2), I outlined some of the formative influences in my life which impacted my book, God Gives More Grace. I also detailed a bit of the process of bringing the book to life from a simple sermon from James 4 all the way to a 230+ page manuscript. In this final installment, I wanted to share how I connected with my publisher, and how God answered a very specific prayer.

While working on my dissertation, I always had (in the back of my mind) the ultimate goal of seeing the work published. Honestly, it was for this reason I spent more time in preparation of the manuscript than I would have needed to otherwise.

While defending my dissertation before the committee in March 2017, I asked the men what they thought about the manuscript. After assuring me that it was good, I pressed a bit further wanting to find out their honest opinions on whether the manuscript was publish worthy. They strongly encouraged me to make every attempt to find a publisher for the book, stating that it could be a tremendous resource for believers today. In our discussions, one of the men passed along the contact information of a fellow seminary student who also worked for Regular Baptist Press.

Over the next number of months I did not really concern myself with attempting to find a publisher for the book. In addition to getting ready for graduation in May (2017), our family was in the middle of a major transition. In the summer of 2017 I accepted the call to serve as the Director of Haven of Grace Seminary in the Philippines. During that summer, and into the fall I transitioned from the pastorate of Emmanuel Baptist Church (Millville, PA) to raising support for the work God had called us to. During this period of transition I took a solo trip to the Philippines, and then our family took a three week survey trip there from the middle of August into September.

Needless to say, during this time, there was very little opportunity to work on a book proposal. Now, if you are unfamiliar with how publishing works (as I wasn’t a year or so ago), there aren’t any legitimate traditional publishers (to my knowledge) that allow you to simply send over your completed manuscript to them for review. Every publisher (and literary agent for that matter) first wants to see a “book proposal.” Although agents and publishers vary in what they are looking for, a book proposal generally includes:

  1. Your query letter – This is the initial letter you send to the literary agent or publisher trying to capture their attention–most agents and publishers don’t read past the query letter itself.
  2. A One-Page Sell Sheet – This basically gives an extremely brief overview of your book (i.e. the title, word count, tagline, what the “back cover paragraph” might look like, as well as your abbreviated biography).
  3. In-Depth Biography and Description of the book – This provides more detailed biographical information, in addition to a more in-depth description of the book.
  4. Chapter Outline – In this section the author writes a one-paragraph summary of each chapter making sure to highlight the main points and flow of the book. Since my book is 17 chapters long, I had to craft 17 stunning paragraphs communicating the contents of the book.
  5. Market Analysis, Competitive Analysis, & Marketing Plan – The author is to “pitch” his book and explain why it will succeed among the thousands of books published each year that flounder on the marketplace. He also notes other books on the market that are similar to his, what makes his book unique, and how he will be able to help his book succeed (with the platform he has already established).
  6. Three Sample Chapters – Finally, the author submits three sample chapters for their review. Generally these chapters include the introduction, along with two chapters of the author’s choosing.

Preparing a book proposal is a daunting task in and of itself, but by the late summer and early fall I was able to craft my book proposal, and send it out to a select number of literary agents and publishers. In total, I emailed my proposal to about a dozen literary agents or publishers from the summer of 2017 into the spring of 2018. Some may wonder, why would you send your manuscript to a literary agent anyway? Why not just send it to a publisher? Well, the way traditional publishing works today, many publishers will not accept unsolicited manuscripts or book proposals. So, for many publishing houses, the only way to get them to even look at your proposal is to go through a literary agent. For the most part, if you are accepted with a literary agent, your book will be published. Literary agents will only accept a work they have a good hunch will land with a publisher. They only get paid if the book gets published.

So, when I sent my first proposal out to a literary agent, I impatiently waited to hear back. Most agencies and publishers tell you not to expect to hear back from them for at least 8 weeks. If you don’t hear back from them after 12-16 weeks you can assume that they are not interested in your book. Amazingly, after sending out my first book proposal, I heard from the agent within 24 hours. In his response, he said that my proposal, and specifically the topic of my book, caught his attention, but unfortunately he was not taking on any new projects and therefore would not be able to represent my book. That email was a mixed bag. Even though I was disappointed not to have connected with a literary agent that I thought fit me pretty well, I was encouraged to know that the topic of my book generated some interest, and he liked my proposal.

But after sending a couple more proposals out, and then hearing back from one agent in particular, I began to recognize the need to establish and broaden my platform. It was at this point it became apparent that breaking into the book scene was not going to be easy.

Although not impossible, it is extremely difficult for a first time author to find a traditional publisher for their book. If you don’t think so, just ask anyone who has written a book and tried to get it published! Now, an author can, of course, go the self-publishing route, but that was something I wanted to avoid, if at all possible. There are some limited benefits to self-publishing, but for me, I really wanted to go the traditional publishing route. The main reasons were: 1. The ability of a traditional publisher to market my work. 2. The resources a publishing house possesses to prepare the work for publication (i.e. editors, graphic artists, promotional team etc.). 3. The external affirmation that the work was capable of standing on its own merits.

So, by the first part of 2018, I  still had only sent my book proposal to 8 or 9 publishing houses or literary agents, but from everything I had read (reinforced by the responses I received), I knew landing with a publisher was going to take a work of God. One blogger noted that 90% of proposals are rejected before the publisher gets to the end of the query letter, and 98% are rejected by the end of the first chapter. A minuscule percentage make it through the first battery of tests only to fall before the weekly “board meeting” where all the potential new manuscripts are “pitched.” If it survives the first meeting, it then goes through another, more in-depth analysis to determine whether it will be a worthwhile investment for the publisher. Once all of the data has been collected, and editors and publishers get a chance to review the manuscript, the book makes it to a second, final board meeting where its fate will be decided. If the book is still standing after this meeting, a contract is offered to the author, and the book begins its long journey toward publication. I share a bit of this process to highlight some of the hurdles in landing with a publisher. Although a person’s chances in getting published are better than one in a million, when you are in the middle of the process, the prospects appear pretty dim.

In spite of the odds stacked against a first-time author’s book, however, God continued to burden my heart with this desire to see God Gives More Grace published. I really could not explain it, but there was this burning desire that just wouldn’t go away. So, in January, I began praying earnestly that, if it was the Lord’s will, my book would land with a publisher. In February 2018, I sent an email to David Gunn, the fellow seminary student who worked at Regular Baptist Press. From the time I first received his contact information in March 2017 to the point I sent him my book proposal, David was promoted as Director of the Press. Of course, after sending my proposal, I had to just wait. Yet, God continued to constantly bring my book to my mind and heart. I prayed for God to open the doors that only He could open. Our family began to pray together that the book would be published. Sometime in late February, I began praying that the Lord would answer our prayers and that I would specifically hear some positive news about my book before April 1.

As the end of March approached, our family continued to pray. This year, Easter Sunday was on April 1, so when Thursday, March 29 came and went (without hearing any news), I admit, I was feeling a bit dejected. I thought, “No one is going to send a response on Good Friday, and the likelihood of hearing something over Easter weekend was slim to none.” So, I resigned myself to accepting the fact that God’s response to this specific request was either, “Wait,” or “No,” and that God would give me grace for either answer. But, to my great surprise, on Saturday, March 31, I heard an email alert notification on my phone. Now, I have three or four main email addresses I use, and all but one come into the same inbox. That particular inbox has almost 30,000 unread messages and I probably receive a dozen (primarily junk) emails every day. But the other email address is used exclusively for ministry, and is completely junk-free. And when I heard my phone ding, I could tell I received an message in my ministry email inbox. As I offered one final prayer to the Lord, I checked my phone and saw an email from David Gunn. After offering a warm greeting I read the words, “I am pleased to report…” It was at this point I knew God had answered our prayers. David said that the New Products Committee had conducted their initial review and was very interested in publishing my book. He said, even though they were not yet at the point of officially committing to the project (it would have to go through an additional cost-profitability analysis), the prospects were very good. At this stage I was instructed to send the full manuscript… and then I had to wait… again. From the end of March, I waited until the early part of August before hearing anything further. Four months seems like a long time when you are waiting. But, in the early part of August, I received the official word that Regular Baptist Press wanted to publish God Gives More Grace. I received the contract, and in our travels out West, I was able to sign the contract at the Regular Baptist Press Headquarters in Arlington Heights, Illinois.

This journey has highlighted God’s goodness, His answers to the prayers of His children, and ultimately His grace in my life. I look forward to the publication of God Gives More Grace, and pray that as a result believers will be strengthened as we seek after and enjoy the grace of God.


Happy Thanksgiving from the Valiantes

There is much to be thankful to the Lord for this Thanksgiving holiday. Our family is thankful for God’s constant care for us, His provisions, and His abundant grace. I am so thankful for Sarah and our wonderful children, as well as the time we can spend with Sarah’s entire family this year. The Lord has been very good to us! We hope you will have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Birth of a Book (Part 2)

In Part 1 of this post I gave a bit of my background leading up to the writing of my book, God Gives More Grace. It certainly has been a long, and winding road. In this post, I hope to share a bit of the process of writing the book itself. In the final part I will explain how I connected with my publisher (Regular Baptist Press), and how God answered a very specific prayer!

The origins of my book can be traced back to 2005, when I started preaching a series of messages through the book of James to the teens at Lighthouse Baptist Church. The series consisted of 32 messages and took over a year to finish. When we came to James 4:5-10, I remember being struck by the simplicity and importance of this single text in regard to the grace of God. Just this past week I looked back at my sermon notes from this passage, and found that what I preached to the teens at Lighthouse Baptist Church in Sunday School over a decade ago has the same exact layout and divisions as my 200+ page book. The simplicity, yet depth of Scripture always amazes me.

The study in James 4 left a lasting impact upon my life and ministry. I found that I would often direct people to this passage when helping them deal with various issues and struggles in life. Inevitably, whenever I would counsel an individual or couple, sooner or later we made our way to this passage. When we think about the struggles we face in life, it is the grace of God we need most. So, this text and God’s grace was constantly on my heart and mind.

As I progressed through my graduate studies, first completing a Master of Arts in 2012, and then beginning work on my doctoral studies, I was well aware of the dissertation project that loomed on the horizon. When I began thinking about what subject I wanted to invest endless hours of study on, the passage from James 4 on God’s grace was the very first one to come to mind. To my surprise, when I presented this topic to my advisor in the doctoral program, he accepted it without any modifications. That is a miracle in and of itself!

So, as I was nearing the completion of my course work for the doctor of ministry degree through Clarks Summit University, I began work on my dissertation in earnest. During the end of 2015, and throughout much of 2016 I spent countless hours writing my dissertation. Sometimes I would write during the day; sometimes inspiration would strike in the middle of the night. But, by October 2016 I held a completed manuscript in my hands. I turned the document into my “first reader” on my dissertation committee who read through the manuscript and made corrections and offered suggestions. By March 2017 (just two months before graduation), I sat in a room on the campus of Clarks Summit University prepared to spend the next 3 hours defending my dissertation.

At the end of my defense, Dr. Gardoski and Dr. Slusser asked me to make a couple of modifications to the text, but said I had passed through with flying colors. During my defense, I wanted to find out what they really thought about the manuscript. I asked, “So, what do you think about my dissertation?” They both agreed, “Its good.” But I wanted to make sure I was getting their honest opinion. I asked, “So, what do you REALLY think about my dissertation? Do you think it is publish worthy?” And they both said that they felt like I had a good writing style, and that the work would be a valuable resource for the church. In the meeting, Dr. Gardoski passed along the contact information of a fellow Clarks Summit University student who worked at Regular Baptist Press. This of course would come into play almost a year later. To find out more about that, stay tuned for Part 3!